Does not mean that we rise unlimited or we do what our child wants. We follow our instinct, responding to their needs both physiological and emotional. These six maternal paternal behaviors indicate that you are carrying out an attachment parenting. For those who think it is a current fad, this kind of bond between parents and children is studied over 50 years ago and has been practiced for many more.
Already in the fifties, the psychiatrist John Bowl by stressed that raising exercise this way was a common behavior among primates and to carry it out in children, the end result were boys and more secure and confident adults. What should do to rise with attachment? Not really much more than follow the mater paternal instinct like thousands of women and men who have done so far, but we will mention some starting points:
Skin to skin bonding with the baby just born promotes the creation of an early link. The hours and days after birth are a time of maximum sensitivity in which both mothers and babies need to be in contact with each other to interact and create a secure attachment. The baby must be touched and caressed immediately after birth. You must have the warmth of the mother almost continuously during this time, otherwise, all the physical contact of the world will not be enough.
Breast milk is the best food for our children. But not only that, it is a key to strengthen the emotional bond between mother and baby, which will provide a secure emotional base, and starting to develop their own identity component. Establish a good breastfeeding generates the baby feel loved and protected, and responds with a cheerful, confident and satisfied attitude. Babies need an environment similar to that they had in our belly. Being in direct contact with his father or his mother reminds them that habitat, providing tranquility, security, staying relaxed and happy.
The time to have her baby in her arms to her chest and the bed is very short relative to the total life of your child. Still, the memory of his love and availability last a lifetime. Sleep with our children is best for them and for us: separation anxiety is avoided making sleep more and rest better, they have their food source within his mouth synchronize your breath with ours and mainly, they feel safe. Co-sleeping promotes the welfare of the baby, her neuronal development and capacity appropriate responses to stressful situations, and the development of self-esteem infant and subsequent personal autonomy.
Crying is the way for the baby to communicate. Not cry because “we took the time” or are Maneroo but because you need something, you cannot identify or can verbalize the cause of their discomfort. Not enough to change his diaper, wrap him or feed him, but also provide confidence through arms, cuddles, caresses and contact. Realizing that crying is their language and not a method of manipulation, we can interpret their anxiety and alleviate lovingly.